Having Logan has been the best experiences of my life. Words cannot express how much this beautiful extension of myself as truly changed my life.Throughout my entire pregnancy onward, I have realized the lasting importance of attachment. Even throughout the womb, the unborn child and mother are symbiotically bonding to one another. The fetus becomes familiar with the mother's voice and her heart beat which is carried through pregnancy onto the rest of the newborn's life. When Logan was about 2 months old I witnessed the beauty in his attachment towards me, his biological mother. I was shocked to reflect back on my own birth and how I did not have the same attachment period to my own birthmother. I bonded with her in the womb and was torn away from the mother that I was bonded to and thrown into a foster home for three months. I believe that, subconsciously, this early period in my life has made a lasting impact on my development and who I am as a person.
The similarities between us are incredible :-) I am 25, in BSW school, have a son, and am adopted too...having the same weight issues as well.
ReplyDeleteSo glad to have found you.
Yes, it was being pregnant and giving birth to my son that made me realize that there is bonding, my child did know who I was the moment I was born, and knowing the immediate love that there is that lead me to realize that I had questions about myself that needed answers.
It took me forever to start searching, foremost because I didn't know that I could, and secondly, because I felt like I should tell my parents but was too afraid. I finally told them, helped them deal with their insecurities about it, and reunited with my mother when I was a few months away from my 25th birthday.
oops, the moment he* was born, I meant to say. :-)
ReplyDeleteAmanda,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your reply! I have felt so lost because there is a lack of a support network with adult adoptees in my area. The people whom I talk to have their hearts in the right place, but they truly cannot understand what it is like to be adopted. I am glad you found me too. We are not alone.
-Melissa